What challenges will you face while changing yourself ?

The basic idea behind changing oneself is linked directly with hustle. Or we believe it is a lot of work. Or we say — unless we take significant amount of action we won’t change.

If you isolate your journey from your destination and try to beautify only the path to the destination. You will realise your path doesn’t demand excessive hard work, worrying or planning.

If the world is trying to convince us, take mega actions to fix our lives, it doesn’t mean it is the right thing to do. Out of 100, 99 times the world has been wrong. So, stop believing in the mob and start thinking. Our world has created some bad-insane-strange myths such as : —

1. With hard work — you will stand out.

2. With rank — you will change the bad(s) in your community.

3. With compromises — you will build better relationship.

You are not for sale

You are not for sale. Pin it to your chest. You are not meant to bow down, lower your ego, walk humble when you are treated like trash.

You are a human being. You have a birth right to live a life of Freedom. No one can snatch it from you. And no one can tell you to “1st Deserve”.

You do not need to put in hard work to grow into a better yourself. It is blatant wrong and it is only a bubble about to burst.

If you ask me, the challenges you will face when trying to change your course, your way of working or building your own platform are not at all related to hard work. These are

1. Good riddance of bad habits

2. Adopting to Upfront lifestyle

3. Managing to trust your instincts

1 — What is Good Riddance of bad habits

Bad habits include intake of alcohol, smoking, dependance on music, pornography and back biting.

It is not time wastage, not sitting on couch all day, not laziness and not sleeping more than necessary. You may play games all day. Or you may sit useless doing nothing most of the day. You still does not fall in the block of “bad people” doing "bad stuff".

If your dad wants you to get a job and you do not find one and you fail. It does not make you bad. It means your dad is putting unnecessary expectations on you. You are now mature — you can decide the wrongs and rights well on your own.

Dad becoming hard on you, or community bullying you, will turn you into a person — who will end up negating the worldly established beliefs. You will be frustrated so much from the bullying, you will learn in the process. And slowly you will learn to channel yuor anger. And once you master it — you will become someone creating products. After the product, you will have left an impact.

The real bad[s] in us, are not the ones portrayed bad by the people around us. The real bads are only those things that hurt the peacefulness of our soul.

Get rid of all bad habits. Rid good fast sooner and you will find, your time wasting and lousy sittings will turn into productive hours of creative work.

Self control is the most precious asset you will gather in your Life.

2 — Adopting to Upfront Life Style

Make talking your heart to people easier. Isolation ruins our thinking process. It fills our head with negative thoughts. And it always leads to bad life choices.

Do not isolate yourself when you are in anger, regret or filled with guilt. Face the truth upfront.

You will damage some hearts. You will make people talk about you behind your back. You will annoy a lot more than you think.

But the truth is, you won’t carry much burden on your back. Such allegations and thwarts will not have much of a say in your life.

3 —Trust your instincts

Right now, I felt, I should stop writing. Because no one reads my blogs and putting my [wonderful] thoughts into words is only a waste of time. I could have coded the next big app and got richer.

Such thoughts revolve around all kinds of rewarding works. When you put in your heart and soul into a job, it bears fruit. It does not make you rich in money. Neither does it bring you any fame. Nor power. It only brings change. The change of “having no regrets”.

You change into a better person. You change the way you look towards your life. You change your priorities. You ask questions. And you seek, learn and grow.

Conclusion

I always say things like — live happy, fun and broader. I always tell my friends, colleagues and relatives to live good. I always promote one agenda, one way of life, one approach of thinking and resolving our problems — it is Change.

We are angry otherwise. Our kids are suffering otherwise. Our parents do not get the respect nor the facilities we intend giving them. We are usually a loser in our life — all of us.

But it doesn’t mean we need to put in ample amount of hard work to get out of misery.

It only means, you need to change the way you look at yourself and your life. As you start controlling your lifestyle your way, you will be sailing good — straight to your destination with out putting much of a hard work. It will have transformed into Passion Work.

Good Life is a by-product of good habits.

After you change, you will not find any problem big enough to shake you up. Any loss, big enough to make you go crazy. Any failure, big enough to hurt your run.

You will become a happy guy, who lives good, even under circumstances where your are torn, and bullied.