Stop being judgemental

This is me writing this blog in the morning before fajar prayer

Social media is not me

Facebook, twitter, instagram and other social media platforms do not give our true picture. These platforms do not show us eating meals, talking to our families, doing our jobs, maintaining social circles and do exercise. We share a photo of some part of our day, makes people judge our entire life. We go on a trip, share its pictures with a smile on our face, does not mean we are always smiling on a trip. It is a moment from the entire day’s trip.

Similarly, while we post a picture on social media, we want our audience (friends, family members) to believe we are always roaming around with a happy face. No body is always happy, driving his car with his wife. It is not possible. The moment we show our entire day to our friends, they will realise how ugly our days go. These posts on social media does not show us fighting, being sad, wearing the bad clothes, having bad teeth and a bad smell. It only shows one side of a bigger picture.

I am writing this blog before Fajar prayer. I write this blog in 30 to 40 minutes while the day has not yet started. By the time I am done writing and publishing it, I have not really started my day. I have not yet prepared myself for office, talked to my wife, socialised with my friends and watched a movie. It is just the 40 minutes part of my entire day.

But, the moment, I share this blog with people on facebook, twitter and WhatsApp everyday, some people start getting judgemental. They perceive, “I am writing it 24 / 7, round the clock”. If I am not writing it, “I am thinking about it. I am not getting full sleep. I am living a miserable life”. But, in real, I am living a life of fights, upsets, boredoms and movies.

Social media do not represent me. It doesn’t represent anybody. The greatest celebrities on this earth, with a verified account, are only showing one side of their story. Their accounts does not represent them. We all are human beings. We all are just like each other; sinning, smiling, crying and fighting. We are no different from each other.

One side of the picture

Let us go a little higher and see from above. Our attitude of being judgemental has impacted our lives. We have taken a box, labelled it and placed things inside these boxes.

Some are extremist, some are bad, some are successful and some are failures. Different boxes, different names and different people in these boxes. For example

1. Quran is an extremist book or Quran is a book difficult to act upon

We have not read the Quran entirely. Some of us are muslims, because we are appointed a Muslim by our parents. Some of us are christians, because we are labelled so by our parents.

None of us know; what Quran, Bible, Torah and Zabur speak about. We have read only 1 version / 1 translation of these books. We have labelled it ‘boring’, ‘extremist’, ‘difficult to act upon’ book.

No body knows, not even the greatest scholar know, what Islam means. Islam has not yet met its end. It is still being discovered.

2. Pakistan is a failing economy

We are not always failing. Our stock market goes up some parts of the year. It is lower today, but 4 months back it went up to 40000 points. It goes up, comes down and again goes up. We can not fixate the label of a ‘failing’ economy to Pakistan. Pakistan is a flourishing state, named the best tourist place for year 2020.

3. The boxer who punched the weak guy that his blood gushes out

The boxer is not always punching the weaker ones. He pays his fares, talks to his family, earns money and spends it on himself. He sleeps, talks, cries and lives a life. His one time hitting a person, does not make him an evil person. He turned evil in a moment, and later he is a normal human being. His most actions are loveable and forgive-able.

4. The prostitute will go to hell

No she will not go to hell. We do not know what they do. How they live their lives. They might be are more humble, more human and more loveable than us.

5. Atheists will go to hell

We do not know yet. We do not know the Quran yet. We do not know how Allah works. How can we be so sure they will go to hell? They might go to paradise.

Stop it

We need to stop labelling people. We do not know what any of us is going through.

I am a small kid inside myself. I know myself, who needs to be loved, considered human being and needs to be encouraged. I know we all are like me, small inside. We need help, give us help. Give us love, that we listen to you.

My blog is only 40 minutes of my entire day. I am not these blogs.