Signs that indicate you are going right

Chuckanut Mountain, United States by Patrick Fore

Above all, have faith, it is all well. Your siblings are happy with you. Your relatives are fine. Your friends are ok. Your community is ok with whatever you are doing. This is the general principle of working on your own project; getting out of useless worries.

Next comes the signs / indicators that tell you if you are walking correctly on the defined track or not.

1. Initially no one agrees with you

2. Your home, neighbours and colleagues join you

Part I - No one agrees with you

Flame by Paul Bulai

If they are agreeing, I think your purpose is not spicy 🌶 enough. Make it a little spicy. If they are not agreeing, I love you. Because, it tells, you are writing a story and soon this story will evolve into a reality.

Let me tell you, from the core bottom of my heart, they, the wife, the mother and the uncles, they should oppose you. Vehemently, abhorrently, hatefully they should put bad labels to you. Your closed ones have to hate every inch, every second and every moment of your life, to ensure you gain good momentum and you bring the fire to lit longer inside you.

If they are not hating yet. Try finding the passion, madness and love towards your own thing. Search your thing, discover it, fall in love with it, wake extra hours during daytime, talk extra loud during gatherings and hammer your thing hard enough, that you grab the attention. After that let them ask you bad questions. Later let them put bad labels to you. And finally, go isolated, completely alone and all dependent on your own instincts.

Brother, Sister, you need to trust your instincts. It won’t happen, unless you have nothing left in this world, but “the instincts”. Loneliness will teach you to trust your own potential, courage and charisma. Walking fully rejected will make you brave. Standing alone in the pits and taking the hits will make your enormous. You will have fire, the upper part, the faded and the hottest part, and you will burn everything to the ground. You, yourself, alone, will be enough.

Part II - People join you

Shopify, Rue de la Gauchetière Ouest, Montreal, QC, Canada by Charles Deluvio

Through my personal experience, I have learnt something amazing. Initially my people got me admitted into Psychiatry ward. They put Mood Disorder label on me. I stayed alone, in prison, injected, numbed and lifeless, for 4 weeks. And it went on for another 3 months. And it taught me something different, “no one can help you, none, if you do not believe in yourself.”

Slowly, gradually, patch by patch, bit by bit, brick and mud, you will build, grow and become brave. You will find courage. You will learn to fight. You will stand your ground, naked and deprived. You will become bigger.

You know what, people love brave people. They love bigger and passionate guys. They love persistent assholes. People can’t ignore them and they praise them.

Same wife, same sister, same mother, and same colleague will call you, appreciate your blogs, clap on your meetups and hug you. Some will shed tears. Some will show love. And some will walk beside you, a day or two.

People you care so much today, soon they will isolate you, will not accompany you, at the start. Walking working on your own thing, with fire inside, Day 1 to 30, they will put rumble upon you. They will put you behind bars, if that is what it takes. Day 31 onwards, you will have everything; people, love, praise, fame and money.

So, do not work on these people. Work on your own thing. Isolation is an indication, you are now a solution.

Conclusion

Rich by Ameer Basheer

If you are not finding resistance, isolation and bullies, honestly, you need to wake up. You need to work on your own self. You need to take the hits. You need to be brave enough that can walk in the crowd, pelting stones, hurling bullies, shedding blood and smiling.

Brother, no college degree, no university position, no PHD certificate and no prime minister will teach you anything. All of it is only bullshit and you do not need it.

You need your own thing. Your own product. Your own idea. Your own purpose. You need to take your own hits. You need to win it for your own self. You need to get rich and you need to marry the most beautiful girl in your town. Ok, Marry four girls and these four be the most beautiful in your next four cities.

Because, if you won’t love it, a life of freedom, somebody else will come and rob it.