Identify your Path

Kalinchok, Kuri Village, Nepal by Anup Shrestha

This is all noise. The TV, the crib, the lengthy phone messages, the arguments and un-necessary discussions. These do not mean anything to you. You might lose a leg, a hand or your life on these meaningless roads, but still they won’t bear you much fruits. You won’t find contentment walking these paths of other people, or your parents or your bosses. You won’t feel great on these roads.

Let’s discuss how can we cement our own Pathways and walk them with courage, inner fulfilment and determination.

1. Be a willing loser

2. Do not count Favours

Be a willing loser

Villa de Leyva, Colombia by Joshua Earle

If you are punched, and you feel fine. If you are humiliated and you feel ok. If you are snubbed and you feel it is just another day. You are a loser, a willing member of your group, who is not afraid of losing reputation, arguments and discussions. Because these do not mean a dime to you.

You have your own road, to lay. Your own path to clay. Your own road to build. You have your own direction, your own motion and your own passion. They, the people who pull you, drag you or punch you, are not a part of your team. They are meaningless and un-necessary noise on the road you are not walking. Avoid them. Lose them. And do not worry about them.

Be a willing fighter who feels great not when he grabs a glorious cup in a crowd. You do not find happiness when they clap for you. You do not cheer up when they appreciate you.

Be a willing loser. Who feels great when they attack you. Who feels a life inside, when they punch you on your face. When you are show resistance, humiliation and dejection, you act a wall of steel, that stand there; fearless, brave and bold. All willing to lose.

For losses on this road, where you do not belong, are just a noise to your head. Just that, a disgust. Avoid victories here. Be a loser here. This road, the metalled, leading to glittering golds, is just a diversion in your life. You belong into the wilds, in the woods, along the horses and the greens. This is not your city, not your town, not your road and not where you roar.

Do not count Favours

Girl power by Isaiah Rustad

Did they raise you to a good human being? Did they fund your childhood? Did they buy you a car? Did they give you birth? Did they died fighting for you?

They are your well wishers. They did not sell you out. They need to be told, they do not own you. They did not bring you any good. If they counted you the favours they have done for you, take out the favours and throw them to their face. Make them realise you do not have the ability to pay them back. To return them the same. Or you do not want to ever talk to them.

You do not burden yourself with other people’s favour. You do not carry a bag where you are keeping a record of what is left to be repaid. You do not focus on what is not important. You do not let your body take the toll, returning the indebted favours, greetings and blessings. They did it for you, wrong! If they gave you a count of their favours, they in fact did not do it for you.

Shed it away. Get out of this chain. Break this barrier. I say, run away, to a vast emptiness beside a sea and enjoy the sun set. I say, get out, stop thinking about people, your loved ones and people who put a stopping in your life. I say, let them miss you a little, feel bad about the betrayal a little and you take the jump. You get out, find your path, walk there, head down, with passion and love. These people, they who have done you favours, they do not mean anything in your life, if they are stopping you from taking the flight.

Take the hit of reality my brother, embrace it. People do not care you lose or win, they only care how you respect them, benefit them or reward them. And if you really care about these people, explore better rewards, better ways and bigger part of untouched part of your life; to give it all back to them. Get out, get uncomfortable and get moving. This is the only way, you can cheer them up, lift them up and reward them. This way, walking-your-own-path way, you will find more to return.