Do not give up on people

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Just like all the skills, the ability to read and write, talk soberly and act maturely, this skill of “not giving up on people” can be learnt. It is linked with anger management and discipline. As you start controlling your anger and reactive-ness to things of personal disliking, you grow this skill of “not giving up on people”. With less anger, comes discipline and maturity to handle issues. That links you to the important skill of “leading people”. I will break this topic into three sections.

1. Benefits of not giving up.

2. Understanding the fight.

3. Self reward system

1. Benefits of not giving up

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Today is 90th day of writing this blog. For outsider it is one calm day everyday of focus sprint at a good view point. But for insider, it is a continuous fight. I want to give up every second of my life. It is difficult, takes toll on my mind and makes me feel irritated inside. But some negative remarks, some taunts around the day, boosts my morale and resolve to just get up and write.

With resolve and fight, you realise we all “people” are same. Angry on the outer layer, but as you peal it down, it is softer inside. We all love respect, personal example and push. We want to be taken care of even when we are giving the most hateful picture of us. We react sometimes and sometimes we are soft. While you are willing to get ahead of the crowd, you need to be willing to take the responsibility of not giving up on your people.

As you bring discipline, your family comes attacking you. You do not give up on them. Your friends taunt you. You do not give up on them. You colleagues snub you. You do not stop loving them. If you are wanting to succeed and if you want to reach the pinnacle of an amazing life, act like Muhammad. He never used to give up on his people.

It brings your ego down. Lifts your mood. Hardens your mettle. It purifies you and brings your people closer. It lets you build a bright, bold and happy community. It builds your brand and your company. This important skill, is needed for every body. A businessman, a trader and a lover. Pick a person, who wants success, he needs this skill.

2. Understanding the fight

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The fight against criticism, anger ridden mob and hurting comments from nearest is quite tough. Understand it, it is not easy. It is not possible for everybody. If you are not willing to get bloody, you are not really ready. Get up. Open your eyes. Move them. Look around. People who win, are willing fighters. Not soft hearted and lazy, but hardened and roughed. You need to be ready to face the wrath of your people, if you want to get into this fight.

Stop when you are done running. When you are wasted. When you are tired. Take few sips and resume your fight. Keep fighting, until you start finding its taste and rewards. Like Khalid, try to annihilate yourself, when you are standing in the battle. Roar like Zarrar, that people fear you. Speak like Abu Ubaida, that air carries your message. Fall like Abu Bakr, that people embrace you.

Be the mob, like companions of Prophet, that goes unshaken to all critiques, taunts and attacks. Understand it, it is not going to be easy, if you want to build one skill that surpasses all other skills of “not giving up on people”.

And, honestly, do not give me the crap, you are not Muhammad or Abu Bakar. You are exactly like them, just find that resolve hidden underneath your skin, to understand your true potential. You have all the capabilities and all the responsibilities that of our Prophet. Wake up!

3. Self reward system

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You are alone in this fight. So get used to rewarding yourself. You will not get money, neither acknowledgement. You will have to give it to yourself. After every hit, go to a good bakery, buy a good muffin and eat it beside a lake. Give yourself the reward and tell people how exactly you won the last fight.

Without rewards, acknowledgements and love, it gets messy. If you don’t see it coming, bring it upon yourself, yourself. Smile in the mirror. Count your steps and pat on your back. Move and on every fall, consider it a push forward in your rank. Fight harder and after every fight, reward yourself even bigger.

Conclusion

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As soon as you start loving your people, even those who negate you and deject you, you become a better human being. You care less how people react and more how you are moving forward. You see less. You judge less. You talk less. And you do more of what you want to achieve. You work more on your purpose. You find yourself in lesser conflicts. You do not find the need to justify your every action. All of your actions become just a step towards your goals.

Love these people. Do not give up on them. You will see the reward of Muhammad, Umar, Usman and Ali. You will reach your goal and stand victorious in this beautiful picture which is not inside a tv, but real. You will see tears and love, like you have never seen before. You will find yourself among the ranks of Muhammad and his likes. Soon, as you will die, you will see the miracles and light, that you will thank me, for telling you to ’not give up on people’.

Some todos 💥

This part is different from the blog above. But to make sure you guys follow along, please do these things today:-

1. Call your most annoying relative and patch up.

2. Call your never called before friend and just cosy up.

3. Give your wife / husband a chocolate with writing ‘I love you’ hidden inside.